Posts in Gratitude
Elbow Bumps and Pandemonium - Blog#26 - 28 March 2020

The coronavirus has invaded, an invisible alien, spreading from Area 51 in Wuhan, taking over our fellow humans, infecting invisibly, so we don’t even know who is who. Are thee friend or foe? The word “pandemonium” was coined by John Milton in his classic poem, Paradise Lost. He combined a pair of roots, “pan” (meaning: all) and “demonium” (evil spirits), to form a word that now describes all hell breaking loose. How apt.

Our needs compete. Survival, health, and safety are more primal, and typically trump our needs for attachment, affiliation, and affection, though we seek compromises. Anxiety motivates fight-or-flight maneuvers intended to guarantee survival (social distancing = flight) or at least reduce an emotional threat. Loneliness motivates affiliation, the urge to connect. How can we balance them? How can we listen to the wisdom of our anxiety, but keep a leash on the amygdala? How can we maintain connectedness in the face of social distancing?

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Gratitude - Blog#25 - 24 November 2019

What makes Thanksgiving special? Thanksgiving, like mental health, is about connectedness. It is a time of year when we remind ourselves to count our blessings for what we have, and have had. And like Christmas, Thanksgiving is one of the more spiritual holidays. Spirituality is about consciousness and connectedness. The short list of spiritual virtues/emotions includes awe, existential joy, gratitude, humility, and love. At Thanksgiving we focus on gratitude. We can also contrast each of these spiritual emotions with their opposite. Gratitude allows us to move beyond negativity, entitlement, and greed. As an antidote to envy and greed, gratitude dampens our preoccupation with what others have that we do not, and our desire for more, more, more. Thanks-giving is our way of reminding ourselves of our good fortune in life, while tempering our frustration, disappointment, and unmet or runaway expectations. But what if we accessed our gratitude more frequently, and deliberately? In a closely related vein, “savoring” is a term used to describe thought practices that increase our awareness and appreciation of positive experiences in our lives. Gratitude can be an everyday practice, not just a Thanksgiving centerpiece.

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